How to FAIL for 4+ assessment success- part 2

What if you made a conscious decision way before the 4+ assessments take place that even if your child does ‘fail’ an assessment that you will still be fully there for yourself and for your child. That you won’t make it mean a single thing about your child and about yourself.

There is 100% nothing wrong with your child if they do not pass a 4+ assessment.

It’s just that there will be hundreds of children that will NOT pass a 4+ assessment. If you are aware of this ahead of time, you will go into the process with a lot more calm.

What if you made a conscious decision way before the 4+ assessments take place that even if your child does ‘fail’ that you will still be kind, loving and respectful to yourselves. What if you decided that even if your child does ‘fail’ that you will not QUIT. Instead you will keep going?

So many of you (sadly) stop taking action completely because you are so afraid of this presumed ‘failure’.

But it is really important to remember this.

In order to have success, you must have failure.

Failure builds strength and confidence in both yourself and your child.

The more you fail, the more willing you will be to fail.

As a child and a young adult, I was super resistant to failure and it really held me back in more devastating and catastrophic ways than you can ever imagine. As I said, I do not dwell in the past. Rather I learn from it.

When I worked in schools, I saw this trait in many of my colleagues. They did not want to fail. Whatever that meant for them. In turn they did not want their students to fail. They would get cross with me when I would encourage their students to fail more! They simply didn’t like it or understand it!

I was the opposite (not initially however!). I failed fast. I failed often. My students did the same.

My classes were always the top classes with the best results. And do you know why?

Simply because we learnt to embrace failure.

Come out of your fake comfort zones and fail more. It doesn’t feel good in the moment. But your lives will be far more interesting and fulfilling with greater levels of failure.

And if your child ‘fails’, as in if your child is not offered a place at one of your dream schools? Don’t STOP. Keep moving. Keep going. Keep learning. There will be other chances to try again.

But guess what? If you STOP - most likely there won’t be.

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