Learn how to FAIL for 4+ assessment success- PART 1
/Most parents don’t achieve their 4+ dreams because they don’t want their child to ‘fail’.
Most parents don’t achieve their 4+ dreams because they have too much ego to admit to others that their child was ‘unsuccessful’.
Most of us do not like to fail.
I do not like to fail!
But…
I’ve learnt over the years to embrace failure. To become friends with failure. To sit with failure daily.
Failure simply means that something did not turn out as you expected it to.
Many parents lower their 4+ expectations because they want to avoid failure. And that’s up to them of course! No judgement at all. I didn’t send my son to one single 4+ assessment either (not because I was afraid of him failing however). Many parents do not want to feel the feelings that they will have to feel if their child ‘fails’.
One of my clients put it very well in a conversation we had last week.
She very wisely said this.
‘If she didn’t pass it is simply because the school is not right for her.’
So true. Their loss. 100%.
We are in charge of how we feel. If you go into their process knowing this, you are golden.
‘If you want success, you need to double your rate of failure’ - Thomas Watson.
The better you become at failure the better you’ll become at meeting your expectations.
And what an amazing life skill to teach your children.
Failing.
I guarantee they will be far more successful than the children who are taught to get things right all the time.
That’s what I was taught and guess what?
I only started being successful when I let go of that ridiculous notion.
I don’t look back. I look forwards. And I know that at the rate I fail, I will be incredibly successful. Just as my students who ‘fail’ every single day will be.
