Should you tell your child if they've passed an assessment or not?

Students will fail their 7+ Assessments. This does not mean they they are failures. This means that they have failed a 7+ Assessment. That’s the nature of an assessment. Some will pass and some will fail. Some will do well and some will not.

I advise all of my clients to not tell their children if they have passed or failed. They are going to a new school to complete some learning just as we do every single week in our lessons. They are going to show the best of their best abilities and they are going to try their best in the learning that they complete. I encourage all of our clients to not tell their children the outcome of their assessment. If they pass, great. If they don’t pass it’s disappointing but onto the next one. 

If they pass, my clients can have a discussion with their children about the new school that they will be going to. Usually my students are more upset about leaving their current school than the fact that they’ve passed an assessment to be honest. 

There is absolutely no need to tell our children whether or not they have passed or failed. If they ask, then absolutely tell them the truth- but I wouldn’t use the words ‘pass’ or ‘fail’. If you’ve been discussing the assessment as I advise my clients, your children will simply ask you something like this. ‘How did I do at x school?’ And you can tell them the truth. ‘You tried your best and I am very proud of you.’ Usually, in my experience, children do not ask this question.

When you have all of the school options in your hands, you can have a conversation with your child and ask them where they would like to go. But they really don’t need to know about the assessments that they did not pass. What benefit is it to them to know this information?

Also, some assessments are super early and if your child knows that they haven’t passed, it could discourage them for future ones. This is absolutely not what we want. Obviously you will be discouraged but it’s up to you to not show that to your child. You need to be putting all of your energy into the future assessments not the past ones. If your child doesn’t pass, brush yourself off, tell your child that they did so, so well and onto the next one. 

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