My 3 year old has a ‘difficult temperament’ - how can I support them with their 4+ assessments?

Let’s be real here. It’s very rare that you will find a 3 year old who is a ‘little angel’ all the time.

And if you do, these ‘little angels’ are definitely the exception.

Also, I don’t believe that any child is a ‘little angel’ 100% of the time and if parents tell you that their children are ‘little angels’ all the time, they are either delusional or they are liars. Or perhaps they associate a different meaning to those words than you do.

 Because guess what?

 Every single child will have behaviours that are 50/50.

That is just the nature of the world we live in.

 50% of the time your child will demonstrate positive emotions and positive behaviours.

 50% of the time your child will demonstrate negative emotions and negative behaviours.

 Your child having a ‘difficult temperament’ however you interpret that to be will just be your child demonstrating their 50% negative side of emotions.

 So what is a ‘difficult temperament’ anyway? And how can you support your child with this ‘difficult temperament’ when it comes to the 4+ assessments.

 My clients have described ‘difficult temperaments’ in their children from things ranging from:

 Not showing good listening

Not following instructions

Not sitting still to do their learning

Not engaging in conversation with new adults of new children

Not wanting to do their learning.

 Now, when it comes to the 4+ assessments, obviously we can never predict what sort of mood your child will be in on the day of the assessment but what we can do is support them to be in the best position possible to understand what will be expected of them behaviourally in the 4+ assessments.

 A child who understands what is expected of them will be in a far better position than a child who has simply been told to ‘just go in and play!’ – that’s for sure!

 A child with a ‘difficult temperament’ is not the issue, I’m telling you this as a fact.

All children attending a 4+ assessment will have the 50% side of them which will have this ‘difficult temperament’.

Of course, it’s important that they don’t show this side too frequently in the assessment. That definitely wouldn’t go down well. What they want to show and demonstrate is the side of them that would be a delight to teach and a pleasure to be around.

The teachers conducting the assessment will be laser sharp aware that all children will have 50/50 temperaments.

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