Why is it considered ‘bad’ to have high expectations of our children?

When you show others that you have high expectations of your child, why 9/10 times are you looked upon as the villain?

Why is it considered ‘bad’ to have high expectations of our children?

 Any why do so many people underestimate what children are capable of in the early years in particular?

 I think there are different schools of thought here.

 School of thought #1

 Believing that there is some magical age much further down the line when children will be ‘ready’ to learn.

 People will often say to me, ‘Why bother starting so early?’ and ‘Why don’t you just wait until he is 4/5/6/ insert whatever number you want!’

 When I ask them the opposite, ‘Why didn’t you start earlier?’, people will often get defensive and sometimes rather offensive.

 They will see it as an attack on them for not having started formal learning with their children earlier! So one could argue that it can also be seen as an attack when people are challenging you about your decision to start teaching your child early!

There is no magical age to start just FYI. Just pick when you want to start doing formal learning with your child and get going. Don’t bother wasting your time on what other people think of you or of your child. Do you know whose opinion matters most? Yours. I’ve honestly never once wasted even a moment caring about what others think of me when it comes to raising my child.

 School of thought #2

It actually makes some people feel uncomfortable.

When they see how much you are doing with your child and how amazing the progress is that your child is making, it may genuinely make some people feel uncomfortable.

This is quite sad because we should celebrate achievements and not be envious of them!

School of thought #3

It causes negative comparison

 Negative comparison is when you compare your child to another child and feel negative about it.

Perhaps it causes people to feel that they ‘should have done more with their children’.

 I firmly believe that you must never compare one child to another and I never, ever do.

 The only emotions I feel when I see a child succeeding are positive ones. I find it rather odd that anyone would feel anything other than positive when they see that a child is succeeding.

If you consider it ‘bad’ when someone has high expectations of their children, that’s your choice.

That’s up to you. It’s not ‘bad’ to have high expectations of your child. I have high expectations of my child in all aspects of his life.

There’s no timeframe needed.

Start having high expectations of your child from as early as you want.

And it is not bad to have high expectations of your child.

You stay in your lane and let others stay in theirs.

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