'My wife/husband/partner doesn't agree with online schooling.'

One of the hardest parts about having a child…

Coming to mutual agreements about what both parents want for their children.

Sometimes these visions are aligned and that’s a beautiful thing. But when these visions are not aligned and both parent have different visions of how they would like to raise their child, this is where difficulties arise.

When my son was a baby, myself and my partner had different ideas about how to support his health and well being. When my son would have a fever, my partner would want to immediately take him to the hospital. I experienced a huge trauma with hospitals when my son was born and I think very differently to him when it comes to hospitals. It would cause a lot of unnecessary arguments. Ultimately, we are just two human beings who want the ultimate best for our son. But those misaligned visions of how to support our son’s health and wellbeing really did create an unnecessary strain on our relationship in the early years of his life.

When it comes to my son’s education, we have mixed views. But for the most part we have come to a mutual understanding of the vision that we have for our son and his education (in his primary years anyway).

I have a few clients who are currently struggling with deciding the best course of action for their children. It’s a tough one and only they can decide of course. But ultimately it’s about doing what you feel is best for your child. It really is about drowning out what other people will tell you. Although they mean well, it’s truly none of their business.

Just be super careful with what you make sentences mean. Just because one partner doesn’t ‘agree’ with something doesn’t mean that they are right. Online schooling works beautifully. Online schooling gives you freedom. Online schooling can open up doors for your child that you most probably don’t even imagine. So a sentence like this really means nothing. It’s merely a thought. I don’t agree with a school dictating my life- telling me the time my child needs to wake up in the morning and telling me when I can go on holiday. These are just my thoughts, It doesn’t mean that I am right. I might change my mind after a few years! And guess what? That’s ok!

There is no right. There is no wrong. There is simply making a choice and being as happy about it as possible. Just choose. And then be ready to make changes if needed. Because that is the beauty of this life and remember this always. You can make changes at any time.