From Baby Cub to Cub to Lone Wolf - Part 3

Read Part 1 and 2 to learn about the Baby Cub and the Cub.

I believe we become lone wolves around the time we choose the A-levels we wish to study.

Again, without the correct guidance and support, it will be very difficult to choose the “best” A-levels.

I had no guidance, and I had no support.

My school held one meeting with each girl when we were choosing our A-levels. This meeting was 10 minutes long and with a teacher who knew nothing about us. As in — we didn’t even know who this teacher was. She asked us three generic questions and then, based on those questions, would tell us the A-levels that we “should study”!

How ridiculous!

What you study at university is so important in so many different ways.

But as a lone wolf, that’s exactly what I was — alone!

My mother simply wanted me to get a “job” and be “secure”! What a joke! She meant well, of course. She loves me more than anyone does in this whole world. But a “job” definitely does not mean security!

I went to university to study Italian. I loved languages, but truthfully I chose this degree because I thought it would be “easy.” Well, it wasn’t!

As a lone wolf, I went to UCS, Reading, and finally ended up at Goldsmiths studying for my PGCE.

I did enjoy university. It was my time of “freedom.” It was my time to test the boundaries, and I made some beautiful friends — who to this day are still my best friends.

I went on to become a teacher, and I worked in schools across the country for 15 years.

I was exceptional at my job, but I really struggled with my childhood traumas in schools.

I wanted to give all of my students the attention and support that I wasn’t given, and I quickly saw all of the limitations. It was simply not possible to give 22–33+ children all of the attention that I wanted to give them.

I fell pregnant at the age of 36, and the moment I found out I was pregnant, I handed in my notice.

That’s a different story for another time!

Now, as most of you know, I teach on a 1:1 basis, and I support hundreds of students each year to have the attention they deserve and to achieve the dreams they would like to achieve. I work closely with my clients to support them in helping their children feel nurtured and supported — and to not become a lone wolf so early on in life. There’s plenty of time to be a lone wolf later on!