Is it ‘abusive’ to prepare a child for a 4+ assessment?

The definition of abuse is someone causing us harm or distress.

So you answer the question I just asked you for yourself.

Is it ‘abusive’ to prepare a child for a 4+ assessment?

What a ridiculous question to even ask.

But I ask it for a reason.

I ask it to encourage you to really think carefully about other people who will JUDGE you and who will SHAME you when you tell them that you are preparing your child for a 4+ assessment.

I ask it to you to encourage you to really drown out that ridiculous noise (which makes zero sense by the way).

There is far too much arrogance around 4+ assessment success. There are far too many people telling lies to other people. There is far too much ignorance when it comes to the 4+ assessment process.

Basically what people really are telling you is this…

You are abusing your child by learning with them.

I’m not here to defend what we do and of course people are entitled to their opinions.

I have never abused my child and none of my clients ever have either. We adore our children just like all of you adore your children.

My son ADORES learning with me.

So if doing a puzzle, lego, reading, cutting or drawing with my son is abusive, why is it not abusive to send children to school for 6-9 hours a day?

Oh but that’s fine yeh?

Continue doing what you love doing. And if other people want to judge (they’ll judge you either way!) - let them!